Comparison trap

The comparison trap.

Does anyone else ever struggle with that?

I usually don’t . . . but for whatever reason, I struggled last week.

I think it is especially hard in the blog world sometimes to not compare yourself to other bloggers, especially those you look up to or admire. To not think, well if she ran this far, so can I or wow, she seems so excited about that race, maybe I should be doing more races. Oh that dinner looks really good, my leftovers are totally lame. Gosh, that blog is awesome, I wish mine looked like that. Look at how many commenter’s she had, man, I’m jealous. . . and the list can go on and on and on.

But, the important part is to recognize it and stop it.

And then, turn it around to think about all the awesome things in your own life.

To remember that you can’t truly compare yourself to anyone else. No one else has the exact same situation/life/body/food in the fridge as you.

So, last week, I started thinking about all the things I am happy about in my life. And in no particular order. . .

1. I have a job that I love. I get to take care of people and make people’s lives better, every day.

2. I generally get to be home on Fridays to hang out with Luke and be a stay at home Mom for one day per week.


3. I have a loving husband and an adorable son and a silly puppy dog.


4. I have a great home. And the opportunity to build an awesome house.

5. I am a good runner and I love to run.. . whether I am training for LIFE or my next half marathon.


6. I love teaching aerobics and BODYPUMP. More than I ever thought I would!


7. We eat pretty good and healthy dinners most nights. And thanks to Pinterest, I always have good inspiration for cooking. And I have a husband who appreciates my cooking and baking.

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8. I am rocking out my grocery challenge. Winking smile

9. I have time to keep up with Running4Cupcakes and share my life with all of you. BTW thanks for reading. Smile

10. I have made some pretty sweet friends via the blogging world.

What are you happy about right now???


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28 Responses to Comparison trap

  1. I think this is an issue both IRL and online. We as humans tend to envy others that we look up to. What’s important is feeling blessed in the accomplishments we make on the day to day ya know?
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  2. I started writing a post yesterday about YOLO vs. FOMO that falls along the lines of the comparison trap. And hopefully I’ll get my thoughts together and able to publish today or tomorrow. I’m so happy that I’m living at home and able to teach sculpt, but at the same time I’m ready to have my own place again, and I’d like to be dating again. But these are things that I know take time, so I try to remember to be happy where I am, not always be wishing for the next step.
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  3. Totally true. I do this ALL THE TIME even though I know I shouldn’t. I think a lot of it is because I am a SUPER competitive person, so to me, everything is a competition. I’ve gotten much better over the years, but it definitely rears itself from time to time.
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    • KT

      It’s hard to not get sucked into it at times, especially if you are having a bad day or things just aren’t going well for whatever reason.

  4. You’re so right! Whenever I get caught up in this I try to disconnect for a few hours and just be in the moment in MY life and focus on how great things are. Turing off the media for a little while can do wonders!
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  5. Way

    I am thankful for a sweet daughter in law that shares things on her blog. That she loves my son and makes him happy. She is a great mother to Luke. That they both have good jobs and can look forward to building a new house.

  6. Love this post! I truly believe that “Comparison is the thief of joy,” as Teddy Roosevelt (supposedly) said. I wrote about it here, even:
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  7. This post has my name written all over it! I actually have something similar on my writing to-do list! It’s so hard not to fall prey to the comparison trap, especially in the blogosphere! Your blog was one of the first I started following & I agree with all of your affirming statements. As a fellow working mom, mega props to you for totally rockin’ working, running, parenting, blogging, & grocery shopping! You are an inspiration to all!

    • KT

      Thanks for the nice comment. and I agree it is nice to see similar view points in the blog world.

  8. I really love this post! Here are mine: I’m really happy that I’m almost caught up on work! I’m really happy that I have a husband who adores me and makes me laugh! I’m really happy that I have a great support system! And, I’m really happy that I have no huge issue to worry about the moment!
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  9. This just made my day. You are so sweet. I am so happy and so lucky to have you in my life. I have definitely fallen into the comparison trap from time to time and it is so important to snap ourselves out of it and just like you did, focus on what we DO have and what we are grateful for.
    Can’t wait to see you again friend. Counting down the days….21.
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  10. Katie – thanks for posting such a great message. I’ve only been on the blogosphere since March of this year, but I often feel that way. I took a break from blogging because I felt like I couldn’t keep up with all the other bloggers out there who were producing such great material, and on a daily basis! After my little break, I reminded myself why I started blogging in the first place (to celebrate life and motivate myself to be a better person each and every day), and now I’m back to blogging. Whenever I feel like it, whether that be every day or once a month. 🙂
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    • KT

      Totally agree- stay true to yourself and who you are, because there is no one else out there who has your viewpoint and life! And enjoy it!!

  11. It’s hard, isn’t it? Thankfully, it sounds like you have a day or two where you battle comparisons and then you have the strength of mind and self to rein yourself in. I love reading your blog ~ you are authentic and trying to live your best life with your wonderful family. Enough said!
    Right now I’m happy that all four people in my house (and the dog) seem to be content. We have struggles, dreams, bad days, etc., but we are all healthy enough to do what we love and we get to do it with one another’s support. That means a lot to me. 🙂 recently posted..Five R’sMy Profile

    • KT

      Thank you so much Stephanie – I try to keep it real on the blog. . . but it is hard sometimes reading about what other people are doing. Like right now, I am writing this comment with a fussy baby on my lap. Real life is the best, isn’t it!!??

  12. Kim

    Great post. One of the reasons I enjoy your blog is because you let your ‘normalcy’ shine through. I mean that in a good way! It’s obvious how much you love your family and your life, and take pleasure in the small things. It’s refreshing to see you post about your ‘healthy but not restrictive’ meals, and eating dessert without apologizing for it. And it’s awesome how your love for running and bodypump shine through. Seems like you have a great life-balance going on! I know I sometimes see all these bloggers doing all the amazing athletic feats (ironmans, crossfit 800 times a week, etc.) and feel like I should be doing more, or that I don’t ‘measure up.’ It’s important to step back and remember that I need to live my own life, and if crossfit is out because it’s so expensive, or triathlons are out because honestly I don’t like swimming laps, that’s perfectly okay. To each their own! You can be inspired by someone, but that shouldn’t mean mimicking them. Rather, you should be inspired to live your own best life, whatever that looks like! (Not ‘you’ in particular…the collective ‘you’ in general 😉 )
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    • KT

      What a super nice comment Kim! Thanks so much for the wonderful words. I really try to show “real life” on my blog and I am glad that shows! Thanks for reading. I appreciate it!!